Yes! Yes! Oh My God, Yes!

I know I got your attention, pervs.... :)

This post isn't about sex, or orgasms, at least in the sexual sense. It isn't about that physical high you get when you are touched so deeply inside that you cannot contain your excitement for one.minute.more....

But it is about experiencing life to the point of "orgasm"....or the "energy" created when you say "Yes". To life.

I've always been optimistic. Always. I always look on the bright side and have "faith" that everything is as it should be and my life will always look beautiful. However, "knowing" that does not allow me to rest on my laurels. A huge part of my life's success is due to my involvement in the process.....intention, if you will.

Now, I am not going to get on a soapbox and preach to you about "the secret" or the "law of attraction", however my theory is based on those ideas.....and one other decision I made about 18 months ago that has improved my life 100-fold.

The decision was.....YES. Yes, to everything. Especially the scary shit. And trust me....the scarier, the better.

I remember the moment I decided that my life would be a YES. My friend Todd, an accomplished pilot, put a facebook status up that said "I am going aerobatic flying tomorrow, who wants to come?" I didn't even hesitate. I texted him and said "Me, Me, ME!!" Moments later, we were on the phone making plans for the next day.

I noticed that right after I felt the YES in my gut, I felt a small NO tugging at me. This NO is the reason I hadn't done scary things in the past. Risky things. FUN things. I told NO to hit the road this time.

With that YES moment, my mindset changed. I decided I would say YES to every opportunity I was given. And I would SEEK situations that bordered on "no"because of shyness or fear. And yes, believe it or not, I am a shy person.

My life has not been the same since.

I have raced my Saab on Race City Speedway, taken pole dancing lessons, traveled to places I would not have considered, trusted people with my secrets, and done other things that make me crawl out of my skin, as far as comfort level goes. Most recently, I agreed to guest star on a video podcast (http://www.the49thparallel.com/ ) with virtual strangers. The reason I did it was, not only because it was certain to be fun, but more importantly because it scared the living shit out of me. It is so much easier to say no and not test my limits. But saying YES is way more fun.

What has happened as a result of YES is that I have attracted the most amazing people into my life. Those people have brought with them, either a talent that has enriched my life, friendship that has expanded my heart,or opportunities that I would never have had, had I said no.

Those of you who follow me on Twitter may think that I am a cynic, a complainer, maybe even a bitch. Yes, I am some of those things, SOME of the time. But the essence of my life is YES.

Yes, I will try something new. Yes, I will meet someone new. Yes, I will help you. Yes, I will take a class by myself. Yes, I will love you. Yes, I will travel alone. Yes, yes, yes.

Now, this must not be confused with over-committing. I used to do that too. That is a different yes. Saying yes to every REQUEST of your time or talent is not always a good idea. You can spread yourself so thin that by the time you get the opportunity to do something for yourself, it comes out as a resounding no..... and you will sabotage it. I have recently learned that sometimes saying a no to someone else is saying YES to me. My life. My goals. My family. My sanity. It is so hard to say no, but someone once told me "No is a complete sentence".

So, I implore you....do something soon that scares the living daylights out of you. Do it. Say YES.

And, while I am at it....let me say, if you ever get the chance to go aerobatic flying, do not hesitate. It just may be the single most exhilarating thing you ever do. The spinning, turning, flying upwards making the motor stop before turning back down and having the engine kick-start......Having gone twice in the past 18 months, I can safely say that I am addicted to the G-force that it offers.I guess in order to keep finding the G-force in my life I am going to have to keep flying....

and spinning.


:)